When you enter into a relationship, you stop being just yourself and become part of a couple. This is strongest in marriage, where the Bible tells us, “A man [leaves] his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” (Gen 2:24) Whether you take this completely literally or not, it reminds us that a smile makeover for one person in a couple might be as incomplete as if we only worked on half your mouth.
If you are considering a smile makeover, here are some things to consider about whether you should both get cosmetic dentistry.
Does Your Partner Want One Too?
Before you decide whether you should both have smile makeovers, you have to think whether your partner also wants a smile makeover. This isn’t as straightforward as it sounds. Some people will say they want to fix their teeth, while others can be so self-conscious about their smiles that they don’t even want to talk about it.
Other times, people may think that they don’t deserve a smile makeover. They’re the kind of person that always puts others first, never asking for special treatment. But if you think your partner might secretly want a smile makeover based on casual comments they make, or if you catch them looking unfavorably at their teeth in the mirror, bring it up.
And remember, don’t say, “I think you could use a smile makeover, too.” Especially for people who are ashamed of their smile, this can have a very negative sound. Instead, say something to the effect of , “I think you might want a smile makeover but don’t want to say it.” And make it clear that you don’t think they need to fix their teeth.
Will the Disparity Create Tension?
It’s important to consider whether having just one of you get a smile makeover will create bad feelings in your relationship. One person may feel neglected because they think that they have needs that aren’t being met. Or they may feel that the other person is spending too much on themselves. Sometimes this manifests as an insistence that the one person “loves you the way you are” and changing is somehow disrespectful of that love.
Another important consideration that most people neglect is how a smile makeover can affect your feelings for one another. Couples are happiest when each person feels they are about as attractive as their partner. If one person gets a smile makeover but the other one doesn’t, it can change how you feel about each other.
Will Going Through the Experience Together Be Enjoyable?
Some couples enjoy doing things together. Shopping together. Dancing lessons. His and hers massages. By growing together, they grow closer. If you’re one of these couples, his and hers smile makeovers are a great choice. You will both go through the pleasure of your own smile makeover and see it in your partner at the same time.
Not every couple will want to get a smile makeover together, but if you are considering one, you should consider whether your partner might want one, too. If you want to start the smile makeover process for one or both of you, please call (843) 706-2999 for a consultation with a Hilton Head cosmetic dentist at Beyond Exceptional Dentistry.
